Tag: Fear of swallowing

  • Mental Health Victories

    Who Needs to Hear This Today?

    So many people talk about mental health, but how many truly understand what it’s like to live inside it every single day?

    If you’re quietly battling OCD, anxiety, phobias, depression, or any mental health struggle that feels impossible to face, and that no one else can see, this is for you. Every morning, you wake up already in a fight that feels invisible. And yet, every small victory, finishing a meal, facing a fear, surviving another panic attack, is monumental, even if the world doesn’t notice.

    This post is a reminder: your struggles are real. Your victories matter and you deserve to celebrate them, even in silence.

    The Struggles No One Notices

    I’ve carried those battles for years. What hurt the most wasnt just the symptoms, it’s the silence, the lack of acknowledgment. People celebrate medals, promotions, milestones, but who celebrates the victories that feel small to the world but life-changing to you?

    For years, I couldn’t eat properly. Anxiety, OCD, and phobias had taken over something as simple and human as sharing a meal.

    The day I finally finished a plate of food, the joy was overwhelming. It felt like reclaiming a piece of life I thought I’d lost forever.

    And yet, no one around me could see how monumental that moment truly was.

    Facing Fear Alone

    Panic attacks made every day unbearable, the fear, the shaking, the endless “what ifs.”

    When I finally faced them and overcame them, there was no applause, just me, just my own quiet victory.

    Progress can be invisible. Courage can go uncelebrated. But that doesn’t make it any less real.

    Why This Matters

    This isn’t about sympathy or praise, it’s about recognizing the strength it takes to face each day.

    You deserve acknowledgment, recognition for your progress.
    You deserve someone to say, “Well done,” even if the world doesn’t understand what it took to get here.

    Celebrate Your Own Victories

    Sometimes, we must celebrate our victories in silence. Not every triumph will be witnessed, not every moment of courage will be applauded.

    But that doesn’t make them any less powerful.

    We all carry private worlds inside us, places no one else fully sees, where our fears live, hope grows, and strength is built piece by piece.

    And in those private worlds live our victories too.

    Honor them.
    Celebrate them.
    Say “well done” to yourself for the battles no one else sees.

    The Power of Quiet Victories

    Sometimes, the quietest victories are the ones that change us the most.

    Every day, every small triumph, finishing a meal, facing a fear, surviving another panic attack.

    Even if no one else notices, these victories belong entirely to you.

    And that makes them extraordinary.

    Well done, for facing another day.

    kate.faceyourthoughts@gmail.com

  • Swallow your fear: Living with Phagophobia and pseudodysphagia

    How do you feel when you think about food?

    For the average person, the idea of a big plate of food may sound comforting, something to look forward to. But for someone with an eating disorder or a food-related phobia like phagophobia or pseudodysphagia, the thought of food fills them with fear and dread.

    I was one of those people. Suddenly, it felt like food was everywhere, the only thing on people’s minds. It seemed impossible to escape. I often wished food wasn’t necessary, just so I wouldn’t have to think about it. But avoiding food wasn’t an option because, in the end, I needed it to survive.

    What does someone do when they suddenly find themselves consumed by an irrational, yet very real fear of swallowing or choking? They often feel lost, hopeless, and stuck, hyper-focused on food, eating, drinking, swallowing, and the fear of choking. This creates a debilitating cycle with no clear way out.

    If you’ve experienced this condition, you’ve probably asked yourself more than once, “Why me?” In hindsight, I realise that question didn’t really matter. I should have focused on why it came about.

    When fear and irrational thoughts take over, it becomes difficult to see the bigger picture.

    This condition thrives on the belief that we will choke, yet we rarely stop to question it. Who says this will happen? Why do I believe it? Where did this fear come from? We seldom reflect on how these thoughts took hold in the first place.

    We develop an overwhelming certainty, maybe even a feeling, that we are destined to choke with every bite or sip. But what is driving this irrational fear?

    If you’re like me, there was likely a time when eating and drinking felt completely normal. Then, at some point, something changed, often gradually. Maybe it began with throat tension, a strange sensation, a panic attack, or even a choking incident.

    What is undeniably true is that this condition stems from something traumatic

    Whether it was a period of extreme stress and anxiety that built to a breaking point, or a deeply impactful event that your mind struggled to process. The result is the same: a debilitating fixation and, to be frank, an obsession.

    Like any other phobia, anxiety disorder, or form of OCD, rational thinking is key. I liken this condition to my OCD because, at its core, it’s fuelled by intrusive thoughts. These thoughts tell you: “Swallowing won’t happen,” “You will choke,” or “There’s something mechanically wrong.” Pay attention to these thoughts and challenge them: Why? What evidence do you have? Like any form of OCD, you’re trapped in a loop of “What ifs.”

    Of course, recovery takes time and multiple steps. We need to incorporate relaxation techniques, eliminate stress, address past trauma, and most importantly practice exposure. Exposure is the only way to overcome fear. With exposure comes evidence. Each time we face our fears; we gather proof that nothing bad happened.

    There’s no way to fully guide you through overcoming this fear in one post. That’s why I offer one-on-one counselling sessions, details are available on my website, faceyourthoughts.com.   But you can start here by understanding why this is happening and what steps you can take to move forward.

    Steps to help you on your road to recovery, to overcome the fear of swallowing:

    ✔️ Explore what trauma you experienced, how to process it, and how to manage stressors in your life.
    ✔️ Practice relaxation techniques, meditation can be extremely helpful.
    ✔️ Understand the role OCD may be playing and learn about intrusive thoughts.
    ✔️ Examine your beliefs and the evidence supporting them.
    ✔️ Begin exposure with very small steps, gradually building up.


    keep an eye out for more posts, as I continue to explore OCD and Phobias in more in depth.

    kate.faceyourthoughts@gmail.com

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